Important Tips On Mental Health

Motivate yourself. To be happy. Listen to an encouraging podcast. Watch that mentor you like telling about how they overcame that bad phase of life. Listen to all the Tedx talk. One each day.

Journal on things that are important. Journalising is what keeps us organised and a pen and paper is something that does the trick to achieve more. Pen and paper makes things real. I’ve started working on this. We can work on the ways to it correctly together. Post in comments below.

Write down how you feel. Write about all the things that make you upset. Also, about all the things that make you happy and content. Write about where you want to reach and what you want to do.

Read. Read what you write. A month later. Read that happy page you wrote. Read that book that you actually want to read.

Self Care. Go for that body massage. Take that haircut. Gift yourself something. Smile often. Sleep. Shower. Pamper yourself. Eat at your favourite restaurant. Cook your favourite recipe. Drink plenty of water.

Wake up early. Take that one hour to care for yourself. Exercise, yoga, meditate, play your favourite sport, do a facial regime, go for a walk, sit outside alone, watch the birds and butterflies, watch the sunrise, drive the car, bike or bicycle, go hiking, or do whatever makes your waking early fruitful for your heart and brain. Be an achiever of things you love.

Call your friends. Meet them regularly. Treat yourself the way you treat them. Friends are happiness, they can make life way more easier.

Donate. This year I found so much difference in myself donating all the problems that I had. My problems were so much clutter of things like clothes, footwear, bags, makeup, accessories and more. Just keeping me occupied without serving anything. Keeping me messed up without helping to define who I really am. Donating all the things I don’t really need made me happy. I also donated things that I may need because I had four or more. So I kept one and donated three for people who do not have even one. My life is so drastically organised and I’m getting compliments every single day on my style. From people I rarely expect. I have a more clear thought of what I want to do for myself. I am still very far from being a minimalist (read: life) but I will reach there soon. Remember, its a never ending process. But its worth it.

Say NO. This one hit me today. I know this since forever. But today it hit me. First, work on yourself. Be your version of yourself. It may take months but keep on going, keep reading, listening, motivating, writing. All the negativity will come out, in tears, anger, nausea, but keep going. Keep encouraging yourself to change things that hinder your mental happiness. You will find what really affects you. What really serves you. Time will come when you’ll realise that there are events, parties, people that you want to say NO to. And its totally okay. Do it. Say it. Let them mind. Say it for yourself. Say No if that going out will make you not happy. And say yes if you want to do it, if it will make you happy, if it will teach you something, if there’s a person you shall meet, if you want to eat out. And say no if there is something more important that you shall be doing. I’ll start doing this from today. Lets see how it goes.


Stay together ladies

I want to shout out loud and call for heavens to let women grow and accomplish.

Why do women hinder the growth of the same gender? It shouldn’t be the culture or religion or caste or safety or any other damned excuse to stop another human to do what she wants to do.

Lets take a pledge to say aloud that we have your back lady! Or just keep quite and take a backseat and watch her flourish and glitter.

Beginner Minimalist

That day I had power over myself. I had motivated myself for more than a week to start reinventing my new style and my wardrobe- which was a total mess.

Minimalism is mighty. It was a no win no lose game for me.

I had not so much attachment to clothes. But I was stocked up mostly with -Just in case. After quickly removing 6 long tops, I started discovering something. In countless journey into the deep areas of my closet, I started finding tops, that were unironed, lost and had meaning. My husband gave this to me, this one was my first date dress, this I have to fit in dress, to be fixed by tailor dress, too loose dress to be wore on sleepy days, or the blacks never worn. It was difficult. To challenge meaningful garments and give them away.

I did it in a week and a month and still continuing. To I’m definitely giving three long kurtas or may be five if I can convince myself that nothing is more costly than my sanity and peace. Nothing new was incoming because I already had so much new stuff packed and kept in another cupboard. Tailor sending stuff were send on the same day. Once the stuffs were out of the cupboard, it was out of sight and given. Going through them again is the worse thing you can do to yourself after such hard work and patience.

I’ve been getting compliments for my attire almost everyday now. Life seems so much easier when I can actually find things to wear. Instead of repeating the same 5 dresses, after having 100, I get to chose from and repeat 25. I’ve discovered what and where I shall I really go shopping to, without even going. Going shopping to a wrong place can add to clutter.

P.s A never ending journey that made me happier and so much satisfied.

An important lesson to remember

There was a time when I used to think about my own birthday. Plan for it. Buy myself a new dress and tell my parents what I want for birthday. Party with friends, even if meant just going out for lunch. Getting a haircut around the month. Waiting for the big day. Almost the whole year.

Life was good in such simple thing that I am important for myself.

Life got complex from the time I stopped looking after my mental happiness treat requirements. First, should have always been me. Being selfless doesn’t anyhow mean to stop caring for little things that makes us feel good and loved by own selves.

Love what you do

Modern day house-Mom search all over the internet food for their babies and toddlers. The moment baby rejects the food I keep in front of him, my heart pounds. What now?? Shall I force feed him? Mostly I do that. Sometimes mealtime is cakewalk and I feel like life is so easy. Being a mother makes everything that happens related to baby equals to happening with life.

Sex is no where in picture. It is a requirement that has been left in the back thoughts. No one blames the other. Both the partner are tired so much at night, one making money and one raising kids and keeping the house intact.

Compatibility is left in a corner somewhere. Wife has to be compatible with kids and husband- with the boss and working staff.

Both have complains from themselves,”am I doing better?” Knowing that they have so much scope. One wants to play with the kids all day and one wants to go out for a while!

on #Loving what I do..

A lost dream

What am I made of? I wonder with lots of high breathing of guilt. Guilt of mistakes. Mistakes that keeps me here. In this hidden world of worries and eternal grief.

I’m looking for my lost dream. When my child will grow up and move on, will I be looking back and thinking I did nothing these 23 years?

I do not remember what my dream was when I was younger. When I went to school? I wanted to be famous, good at what I did. I wanted to make my parents proud. But what was my passion? What did I want to do?

My story

Babies are the nicest little humans. They make us feel so special. Its true that mother’s heart is the warmest and she is beautiful. My little one has a bigger heart, he loves me unconditionally. He has filled my heart with immense happiness and love. I am mother because of him, beautiful and warm. Love.